You don’t need confidence

One of the first changes I wanted to make when I started this journey of self improvement, was to have more confidence.  Everything I heard and read was something like “people are attracted to confidence” or “everything stems from confidence”, or when you have confidence “doors of opportunity will open.” Google defines confidence as “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.” “So how do I get confidence?” I wondered.   How do I gain this “self-assurance” when I have none?  It felt like every other chicken and egg scenario: getting a job without…

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You have the power of choice

Making a choice (or not) is something I took for granted.  I never stopped to consider the power of my choices.  This is probably why I’ve made some decisions that were not the best, and some that I put off making, came back to bite me. I felt frustrated over other people’s decisions and powerless, or lost, when I needed to make my own. Just make a choice I’m indecisive...at least I think I am.  I’ll waver back and forth between options for what seems like an eternity (just ask my wife).  I have the habit of being paralyzed with…

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Be Kind to Yourself

I think we all struggle with being kind to ourselves.  I know I could be kinder to myself.  I struggle with self-acceptance and my inner monologue seems to constantly repeat the need to be better because I am just OK at whatever I do.  I can honestly say that I don't feel I'm an expert on any particular subject or skill (unless that skill is always being able to find the one negative thing in the sea of my positive accomplishments). This negative self-talk is, no doubt, a result of me having unreal expectations and constantly comparing myself to others.…

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Started a Podcast

I started a podcast!   I'll be talking with fellow improvisers about how they've used improv in their lives.  Improv has changed my life so dramatically, and I'm interested in hearing and sharing stories from other people who might have also used improv in their personal or professional lives. [do_widget id=custom_html-3] The first 2 episodes are up!  Please check it out and let me know what you think.  Stay tuned for more episodes!

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What’s My Purpose

Even though I’ve wondered what my purpose is, I never thought it was important to find it.  I thought that I’d find a job doing something I like and I wouldn’t have to worry.  It didn’t seem like a big deal.  I used to think that I could live happily without a defined purpose but, truthfully, I haven't felt fulfilled in my job for a long time. I see now that the importance of having purpose in your life, shouldn’t be overlooked.  Allowing your purpose to dictate your decisions makes life more fulfilling.  It’s also easier to say “no” to things…

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Starting Conversations

I’m not a very outgoing person.  I typically wait until people introduce themselves, or recognize that I’m there before speaking to them.  It’s not that I don’t enjoy meeting and talking with people, but I feel as if I’m burdening them. It’s also unnerving and vulnerable for me to put myself out there and risk rejection.  I fill my head with “what if this person doesn’t want to meet me?”, “Am I significant enough to be talking with this person?”, “Are they going to respond positively to what I have to say?”, “Do they even want to talk about what…

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Learn to Laugh at Yourself

It’s hard to admit, but I struggled with learning how to laugh at myself when I would make mistakes.  There were numerous times when I would break something or say something incorrectly and I would get defensive and angry, instead of just going along with it and laughing it off.  I was afraid to make mistakes because I was worried that others might judge me...that I would be viewed as an idiot.  This kept me uptight and serious for years. Looking back, it seems so ridiculous that I would get upset over things like that, let alone over minor things.…

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Using an Abundance Mindset to Deal with Jealousy

I used to get upset, jealous, and feel left out when others would accomplish thing or get opportunities that I wanted.  I didn't have an abundance mindset.  The more it seemed like friends were moving toward something great in life, the more it seemed like I was standing still.  As more and more great things happened to people around me, the more I sank into a feeling of despair and self-pity. This is a potentially dangerous mindset to have.  It’s easy to stay in that hole and become jaded.  It’s easy to get in the “poor me” mindset and, it…

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One Way to be More Creative

As a kid, did you feel more creative?  I did.  I remember building, drawing, and dreaming up scenarios with my G.I. Joes and empty cardboard tubes.  Playing and creativity go hand in hand when you’re a kid. When I got a little older, I felt less creative and I realized that my drawings weren’t as good as other people’s.  I felt my drawings never turned out the way I wanted them to.  I would get upset because I had these preconceived ideas about what my art should look like, instead of focusing on the creative process. I see now that…

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Plugging into the World Around You

There was a long period of time in my life when I was not mindful or plugged into the world around me.  Sometime around the ages of 10 or 11, I felt like I stopped participating in life. I remember thinking that it was easier for me to coast through life. I didn’t put forth any effort because I knew I would “get by”. I struggled to keep my grades up and to finish my homework. I wasted so much of my life not learning and experiencing everything in each moment. Sadly, this continued until I was 32. I missed…

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